Give Me a Time Limit
I was to meet a gentleman who had just lost his wife. He wanted to find out if the grief program coming up would be good for him to take. One of his first questions to me was, “Please tell me, just how long this grief work will take!” He wanted me to give him a clear answer so that he could know how long his pain was going to last. I said, “I wish I could answer that. It would be so nice to be able to say that in 6 months or a year the pain you are feeling will go away.”
“tell me, just how long this grief work will take! ”
And honestly, I would love nothing more than that. But the truth is so different for everyone. We are unique like our finger prints and the relationship we had with the person we are grieving was just as unique. So we will not grieve the same way nor in the same amount of time.
Tools
Accept that grief work takes time.
Know that each person’s process is different.
Understand the grieving process.
